Een vriendin met
Neptunus als ascendantsheerser in 7 laat haar tijd eeuwig en
altijd bepalen door anderen... Nick Polizzi schreef daar
iets moois over:
few months ago, a close friend recommended that I meet
Laurie Gerber, a life coach who bridges both the sacred
and the scientific in the work she does. I was
struggling to find balance between my life mission (serving
you, The Sacred Science community) and my personal life
at home as a father and husband. I was spread thin and
At first, I was kind of
skeptical about Laurie because she didn’t fit the
description of what I would think of as a healer… But
after our first phone call, I knew this was someone who
was going to challenge me to evolve and reach higher in
service of Pachamama.
Mind you, I had to do
about 5 hours of written homework, detailing all areas
of my life, my visions, my history, parents and more,
before Laurie would even meet with me. That alone had a
profound impact, especially the part where I had to get
clear on what my dream relationship to TIME would be,
and give it a “current rating” on a scale of 1-10.
I had to admit I gave
that area about a “4.”
As I got writing, more
truths about time came pouring out. I was dismayed at
the fact that I’d come home ready to have a “date night”
with my wife, only to discover the next morning that one
of us had fallen asleep for the night in the kid’s room.
It felt like life had become one long marathon after the
other, with no rest periods in between. This wasn’t my
dream for my career or my marriage.
Of course Laurie made
me explain how it was that I, someone so outwardly
fulfilled (she pointed out) couldn’t seem to get what he
wanted in these 2 most crucial areas of life. And here I
saw my own true colors. All my gripes boiled down to one
wants a piece of me!
And boy, it felt so
true. And so noble to be suffering as a result of this
Laurie and her
organization, Handel Group, specialize in coaching world
changers and world leaders – so this was not a new
complaint for her to hear. She was READY, and gave me
some tough love, accepting no excuses for me not having
my dreams, not even the really noble sounding ones!
First she pointed out
that there was a word for what I was doing with my
schedule and it wasn’t a pretty one – in some cultures
it’s even known as “a deadly sin.” She called it
How could I be a
glutton? I thought. I would be ashamed to be called that
about food. With food I try to be very conscious, but
when it comes to my time, it’s a free for all.
The time I give to
others is what makes me feel “good enough.” I give time
away as though it’s unlimited because of my deep fear
that if I say no, someone will be disappointed in me and
perhaps even reject me.
To be totally honest, I
was sure she would feel sorry for me because I’d ended
up being such a “pleaser” and really had people
depending on me. That’s when she called me another
That’s Handel Group’s
cute way of saying your fear is just a small, loud,
animal and you deserve to overrule it in honor of your
dreams. She explained that by letting go of some things
and delegating others, I might have to weather some
discomfort on my own part, but that the upside (which I
had not yet experienced) would be well worth it. And she
thought I could maturely negotiate people’s potential
disappointments with clear communication.